Luck is something we all encounter through our day-to-day lives. But some would argue it doesn’t exist. The thought of “luck” itself, may not hold substance to a real form; but the statistically correct form of “luck” is very much so real. I spent many years asking myself “Why do I have such bad luck?”. Some days, well… most days things feel as though they could not go wrong any more than they already have. Regardless of what I am doing, whether it be job hunting or ordering take out, or even playing a game. That darn luck seems to have it out for me!
No Job and No Luck!
I have run into this issue especially when job hunting, I could put 100 application in and get just one call back. Excited and thinking I finally got a lead to a job, that one call turns out to be a nightmare. (This has happened back to back!) Order take-out and the food arrives incorrectly. I’m driving home from the store and other drivers act inexplicably off when I’m on the road almost causing near-miss accidents.
The day before a vacation I had planned months ago, I come down with the flu. These are all just some examples of my experiences with “bad luck” in life. That got me thinking, do others have this same problem? Is it statistically different for each person? And the answer is yes! Trust me, I know how easy it is to look around and see other individuals with their “good” luck just steamrolling through life on wins. It can quickly become a weight around our neck if we aren’t careful.
The Statistical Axe
Contrary to what you may think, luck is very much so a statistics game, and not one that can be controlled. Let’s say we take 50 people and have them all choose a card from a deck while determining that anything over 10 wins, and anything under 10 loses. Now, all 50 of those individuals will not draw a card higher than 10, nor will they all draw a card lower than 10. But statistically, it will be divided up in a random amount. Ask them to draw a card in that same theme another 100 times, and you will begin to see the patterns take root. X number of individuals will have a streak of randomly obtaining 10 and higher cards, and x number of individuals will have the same result but for receiving cards in value less than 10. There will be the percent of people who ended up with more of a 50/50 outcome; but this point goes into my earlier statement, why do some have bad luck and not others.
Luck We Can’t Change, Embrace
There isn’t an answer as to “why”, I have come to accept that over a lifetime of unchanging odds. Never assume it is something of your own doing though! It’s easy to blame ourselves when things continue to take a negative down spiral. I spent many years faulting myself, thinking “well maybe I should have tried harder?”. Fact is, I already knew deep down that I fought as hard for things in life as anyone else, and I feel that the world has almost showcased that incorrectly. We’re taught the basic principal that hard work will pay off, and an array of other principles through a societal outlook. What is not talked about though, is how many people push themselves to the limits trying, and still come up short. They continue to fall short next to others who seem to have had a better luck of the draw. Does this mean you should stop trying? Absolutely not! You may not be able to predict if the odds will be in your favor, but you will never know if you don’t try. Embrace the odd and continue the fight.
Attitude vs Statistics
In some cases, attitude can make a difference in how we approach life, but if your attitude is amazing and positive, but the outcomes remain negative; do not despair! I can’t promise you that your luck will turn around suddenly one day, but this just emphasizes how important everything positive is in life. Take the small victories when they come and remember we’re all drawing cards in life; we all win some and lose some. I think the positive attitude is a plus, not for the statistical side of achieving success; but for the fact that when we believe in ourselves, we’re more motivated to do better. Motivation is a powerful tool, it can strengthen us when we’re at our low points and guide us back to the path of determination. This was something I wanted to talk about because I know there’s a heck of a lot more people out there facing this same hardship. You’re not the only one. Throwing some good luck your way as I type this!